I often talk about how working with a divorce coach can help make your journey easier. Whether it’s making a plan to fill out paperwork or navigating the sometimes tricky waters of a new co-parenting relationship—I’m here to offer you the support you need.
But I do get a lot of questions about the practical part of working together, so I want to take a few minutes and address some of the most common ones. And if you don’t see the answer to your question on this list, email me any time at email@example.com or DM me on Instagram!
> My finances are still tied to my ex, how can we work together confidentially?
First, let me reassure you that you’re not alone, and I’ve helped clients who have had this issue before. How to pay for sessions can be tricky, especially if you are still sharing a bank account with an ex-spouse and want to keep your counseling sessions private.
In these situations, I frequently suggest asking a close friend or a family member to help you. You pay them, and they complete the transaction with their card or bank account so that you can work with me discreetly.
> Do you have a contract and a confidentiality agreement?
Yes! I always sign a contract and confidentiality agreement with a client before we begin working together.
My clients frequently share personal details about their lives and mental well-being with me as we work together. I treat this information like a sacred trust, and do not share details with anyone else.
> How will our work together be different from my sessions with a therapist?
In my coaching practice, I am very focused on the future—instead of looking at where you have been, I work with you to make a plan for where you want to go. That doesn’t mean that we don’t talk about your feelings or your situation, but it does mean that I try to make our time together more action-oriented instead of reflective.
Of course, every therapist uses different techniques, so part of what your therapist does and what I do as a coach might overlap. But I’m comfortable saying that, in general, my focus is on providing support for you to heal and create a fulfilling future.
> I don’t have a lot of time to myself, but I’m overwhelmed and I need help. Can you still help me?
Absolutely! I have a very flexible schedule, and I work with clients to time our sessions around their schedules. Depending on how you chose to work with me, I also offer unlimited Voxer and email access… so if you message me late at night, I’ll respond as soon as I can the next morning.
> What is Voxer? Is that something I have to pay for?
Voxer is a free “walkie talkie” app that allows us to send live voice messages and texts to one another. It’s an excellent way to communicate with me if something urgent comes up between our sessions. And if you want to save the message to listen to again later, the app will let you do that too. There is a paid plan that offers some extra features if you want them, but the free version has everything you need to work with me.
> Do you work with women who aren’t married?
Yes—even though it might be harder to legally dissolve a “formal” marriage, all of the same emotions, heartache, and need for healing apply to long-term relationships. I work with clients who are dealing with breakups in relationships at every stage, married and not married, shorter and long-term… and I stand ready to support you whatever your situation may be.
Have more questions? I’d love to chat with you about where you’re at in your divorce process and how I can help you in creating a new, fulfilling life story. Email me to start the conversation!