When I think about what I needed when I was divorcing with two young kids, I know I was looking for someone who could give me tips and could see a little bit down the road from where I was at the moment. Someone who could get me out of my head and help me plan just a few weeks into the future would have been a huge help. I hope I get to be that person for you.
I can help you make some of the day-to-day ‘stuff’ so much easier for you, and for your kids. I can also provide a framework for you to help make this really tough transition just a wee bit easier on you–and your kids will benefit also.
Here are some ways I can help:
>By designing routines and rituals just for you and your kids.
We can discuss ways to ease transitions from your co-parent’s home, giving your kids some time to decompress and adjust to being back at your home again. A regular routine can help this transition go more smoothly, and can become something they look forward to when you are all back together.
>By organizing the ENDLESS paperwork.
Together, we can set up an organization system that works for you–so that you have all the pertinent documents you need at your fingertips. I’ll also help you figure out exactly which documents are important, and will help you prioritize.
>By providing you the BEST questions to ask when interviewing an attorney.
How can you tell if it’s the right attorney for you? What kind of attorney do you really need? What other experts might you need to hire to be on your team?
>By offering virtual support for court dates and mediation.
Big court date coming up? We can practice and role-play. Mediation? I can help you set up your priorities so you can go in knowing what you want to get out of the process to make it worthwhile.
>By giving you mom-to-mom insight about parenting agreements and schedules.
I can help you understand the difference between a 2-2-3, a 3-3-4-4 or a 2-2-5-5 [and what that even MEANS!], plus advise you about which schedules might work for you and your kids the best, depending on their ages and other specifics of your unique situation.
>By giving you insight about moving out and moving on.
The temptation can be strong to hold on to your marital home, but sometimes it can keep you stuck, financially and mentally. I can help you decide what is best for you and whether it makes sense to try to keep your home in your agreement. I can also show you the benefits and pitfalls of staying there or moving out to a whole new place. Again, your situation is unique–there is no hard and fast ‘rule’ about this stuff. I can help you get clarity.
>By teaching you simple ways to practice self-love and care.
Remember how the airlines always tell you to put your oxygen mask on first, then help your kids? Depending on which source you look at, divorce and separation is always in the top 5 most stressful life events–right up there with imprisonment, death of a loved one, moving, and losing your job! During this time, you want to be the best mom you can be for your kids. I can help you find ways to help you get better at putting on your own oxygen mask first, so you can show up as your best self for your kids.
>By helping you find your ‘tribe’ and support that supports your emotional healing and recovery.
If you have a friend who always seems to want the seedy details and gossip fodder of your divorce, maybe rethink that relationship so that you can focus more on the friend who is there to listen, won’t judge, and won’t gossip. These are your people and I can help you weed out the ones who aren’t.
>By helping you face your fears.
I can help you work through the scary ‘what if’s’ and talk you down from some proverbial cliffs of self-doubt. I will help you see that there is a light at the end, and that you have to make it through the tunnel to get there, scary as that may be.
>By helping you plan your strategy about getting back to work, or starting a new career.
We can discuss how to focus on the things you love–what is and what isn’t working for you, and create some achievable goals. Checking off small steps is a HUGE motivator and you will feel better once you begin the process.
>By helping you reset your compass and exploring your passions and what helps you find meaning in your life.
During divorce, you also get to come out of your shell! You are now 100% able to be the you of your wildest dreams! I’ll help you learn what your values are, what is most important to you, and how to want to show up every day.
>By identifying the action steps you need and providing the accountability you desire to ensure your direction and reach your end goals.
Once we have a plan in place, I’ll hold you accountable for executing that plan! I won’t allow excuses, and will provide the tough love you need to get moving on to your soon-to-be AMAZING life that you never dreamed of!