So, your ex has a girlfriend. This person could be the one your ex was cheating on you with during your marriage, or it could be someone he just met. And, it is starting to feel like she ... READ the POST
Resources
Co-parenting With Your High-Conflict Ex
If you are a co-parent, you either have a good co-parenting relationship or a not-so-good one with your ex-spouse. Sometimes, when you have what we call a ‘high-conflict’ ex-spouse, co-parenting ... READ the POST
Coparenting Forward: Making Plans for Down the Line
It’s easy to forget that a lot of our decisions that we make in divorce need to be viewed through a long-term lens. Tensions are high--you just want to Get. It. Done. It FEELS ... READ the POST
Divorce Changes Friendships – Know the Types and Be Prepared
When you go through divorce, many things in your life will change: the amount of time spent with your kids, possibly where you live, your social life, your parenting. Your friends will change, ... READ the POST
Back-to-School Checklist for Co-Parents
Girlfriends, it’s August. That means if you are in the southern US, you are looking at back-to- school being REALLY soon. For others, it happens at the end of this month, sometimes before ... READ the POST
Divorce No-No: Confiding in Your Kids
During divorce, there is a lot of talk about doing what is best for your kids, what is in their ‘best interest’ and making sure that the choices you make are ‘kid-centered’. But sometimes we ... READ the POST
Being a Single Mom, Becoming Myself Again
Becoming a single parent can be just downright frightening. Being in the house at night with my kids and no partner was the thing I hated the most. What if someone broke in? What if ... READ the POST
Divorced Moms, Kids, and Dating – What You Need to Know
So there’s this other d-word in the divorce world, and it’s not Divorce…it’s DATING. Some of you might not be ready to dive in, some of you might have already jumped in to the deep end, and some ... READ the POST
What to Expect in Your Divorce Recovery
If you are like me, you are the type that has an experience that you seek to understand, and then you research everything you can about it, to better understand it and to move through it in a healthy ... READ the POST
7 Great Ways to Change Up Your House After Divorce
When my husband moved out of our house, days after our separation, I wanted anything and everything that reminded me of him GONE. I didn’t want to sleep in our bed. I didn’t want to have ... READ the POST
Change Your Focus, Change Your Life
When we go through divorce, we have a lot of stories we tell ourselves. Mainly, those stories are protective. They help us protect our feelings, our thoughts, and our ‘position’. As ... READ the POST
Celebrating Mother’s Day After Divorce
This is a wonderful guest blog from a near and dear friend of mine that is experiencing the challenges of divorce. I can't thank her enough for sharing her story! I have ideas about Mother’s ... READ the POST
The Modern Co-Parenting Mom
Coming May 3rd! Exciting news, everyone! On Tuesday, May 3rd I’ll be launching a brand-new Facebook group for modern moms! The Modern Co-Parenting Mom is a life-changing group not just for ... READ the POST
Help! My Best Friend is Divorcing…What Do I Do?
There will come a time in your life when one [or more] of your friends is facing divorce. It could be a casual acquaintance--a kids’ friend’s mom--or it could be your BFF, your Ride or Die. You ... READ the POST
Age-Appropriate Ways to Tell Your Kids You Are Getting Divorced
When you decide to divorce, and need to tell the kids, how do you know how to approach the subject based on their ages? It’s actually very different based on stages of their development and how ... READ the POST
Don’t Buy It ! 4 Myths About Divorce
Ok, so I know you have heard a lot about divorce. You have ideas about what it means to be a divorced woman. Maybe that comes from your family, maybe from a magazine, or maybe you don’t ... READ the POST
Multiple Household Hurdles…and How to Solve Them
Johnny’s soccer cleats are at Dad’s but he’s with Mom and has a game. Sally’s ballet shoes are at Mom’s but Dad is taking her tonight. Homework folders didn’t make it back to the right ... READ the POST
Defeating the Stigma of Divorce
The feeling happens suddenly. When you have a date. When you run into an old friend who doesn’t know. When you talk to your kids’ teacher about a behavior problem. When you go ... READ the POST
The Attorney Can Wait – Things To Do Before Hiring One
However it happened, you are now facing divorce. You might feel so relieved to have made this decision [or that someone else did] that you are happy to sit with it a while. Maybe ... READ the POST
Surviving Your First Valentine’s Day Single
Hey girlfriends! It’s coming…the dreaded day…Valentine’s Day! I’m sure you have thought about how the hell you are going to manage it this year, and that’s totally understandable! ... READ the POST
Budget Badass: Finances After Divorce
Let’s face it: divorce causes a ton of emotional upheaval. On top of that, you have to navigate the complex financial separation that makes up the bulk of a divorce. It is important to ... READ the POST
The New Year is Upon Us–What Now?
It’s almost 2022. You are facing a new year full of possibilities and maybe some scary stuff, too! I have been there for sure! If you are going through a divorce, are recently ... READ the POST
Self Care Through the Holidays
Can you believe 2021 is almost over?? The big ones--Christmas and New Year’s-- are upon us--just like that! If you are like me, and have an ‘every other weekend’ schedule with your co ... READ the POST
Questions to ask a Divorce Attorney on your first consultation
FINDING AN ATTORNEY YOU CAN WORK WITH, AND ONE THAT WORKS WITH YOU! One of the many struggles women have during divorce is not knowing either how to find the right attorney, or particularly what to ... READ the POST
Co-Parenting Through the Holidays
The official ‘holiday’ season has begun! Each year, starting with Halloween, we begin what many anticipate with either dread or excitement. For those of us going through divorce, this may ... READ the POST
How I Help Divorcing Moms
When I think about what I needed when I was divorcing with two young kids, I know I was looking for someone who could give me tips and could see a little bit down the road from where I was at the ... READ the POST
Journaling During and After Your Divorce
We all experience some level of distress and upheaval during divorce, and why wouldn’t you feel those things? Your life is moving at 100mph and you feel out of control, you have no idea what ... READ the POST
Why You Deserve a Divorce Coach
If you have been contemplating divorce for a while, and just haven’t made the move, or if you are in the midst of a divorce, you might think you can go it alone. I thought I could, too. I ... READ the POST
Your New Boyfriend and Your Ex
“Take the high road.” Everyone says this at every point in your divorce. Your lawyer, your coach, your therapist. You are sick and tired of hearing it. However, we have reasons ... READ the POST
My Ex Has a New Girlfriend…Now What?
So it finally happened. That other shoe dropped. Your ex has a girlfriend. And whether he tells you personally, your kids tell you, or you hear it through the grapevine, it ... READ the POST
HOW TO COPE WHEN THE KIDS ARE WITH YOUR EX
Picture this: It’s Thursday night, and you are thinking about your kids going to their other parent’s home for the whole weekend. You won’t see them until Sunday evening. What will ... READ the POST
SELF CARE: WHAT IT IS, WHY YOU NEED IT, AND HOW TO DO IT
All over the internet, we hear the new buzzword, ‘self-care’. When people told me I needed to practice self care during and after my divorce, I had no idea what they meant. Also, I ... READ the POST
Co-Parenting or Parallel Parenting? What’s the Difference?
The paperwork may be finalized and the assets divided, but if you have children, the chances are high that you will still be interacting with your ex when your kids go back and forth between parents ... READ the POST
Co-Parenting Rules of Engagement
Divorcing when you have kids requires some special considerations to protect their mental health and well-being. Assuming that their other parent is willing to remain in the picture, you will most ... READ the POST
After Divorce: 7 Steps to Protect Your Finances
When the judge has finally dropped the hammer and a signed divorce decree is in your hand, you may be tempted to ignore everything else for a while. Maybe you feel like you’ve been given a get out of ... READ the POST
Prepare Your Finances For Divorce In Five Steps
Organizing and streamlining your finances may not be the first thing that comes to mind when you’re thinking about how to prepare for a divorce. Most people are focused on managing their emotions and ... READ the POST
7 Things I Wish I Could Have Told Myself Before Divorcing
They like to say that hindsight is 20/20, and wow, does that ever hit home when you’ve gone through a separation and divorce. When my ex and I first separated, I combed through online articles and ... READ the POST
I Asked for the Divorce—Now What?
My coaching practice is focused on how to heal and rebuild your life and confidence after divorce. But does the process change if you’re the one who decided to leave, instead of the one who was ... READ the POST
Ask Lori: Practical Elements of Working Together
I often talk about how working with a divorce coach can help make your journey easier. Whether it’s making a plan to fill out paperwork or navigating the sometimes tricky waters of a new co-parenting ... READ the POST
Ditch the “Victim” mindset for a Brighter Future
One of the keys to healing after divorce is learning how to take control of your own narrative and to stop letting yourself be the victim of your circumstances. When we do that, we can start ... READ the POST
Creating a Life You Love after Divorce
There are two things I know to be true about the divorce process. First of all, no matter how amicable the split between you and your former partner is, divorce is an emotionally tumultuous time that ... READ the POST
Why “Feeling all the Feels” is Critical for Your Emotional Recovery
In every divorce journey, there comes a time when we might feel like we’re getting through life okay, and then—wham!—along comes a memory or a sideways comment that slams us back into feeling angry or ... READ the POST
How to Survive a Split Holiday as a Divorced Parent
As a newly divorced or separated parent, deciding how to split up the holiday with your ex can add an extra layer of grief and heartache onto an already traditionally stressful time of ... READ the POST
